Does any of you have a strict parent? I do have strict parents. They hate it when I hang out with people who are getting drunk, they hate it when I go to places where there’s alcohol. They hate it when I hang around people who are promiscuous. People who put up a nice front like they are true christians but behind their backs are a whole different type of people.
If my earthly parents feel thos way, I wonder how God feels when we do that. When we are hanging out with people who say they are of Christ but turn into a whole different person when they leave church. Paul said in the bible that with such people we shouldn’t even eat.
I guess hanging out with them to minister to them would be cool but how do you minister Christ to someone who claims to know Christ without them making you feel like you are being too uptight. I guess I should just pray for them and literally take that verse to heart.
Usually they say that men are visual and go by what they see and women tend to go by what they hear when it comes to romance.
Men are often advised to stay away and not marry a woman who leaves little to the imagination. The bible also says that if a man looks at a woman with lust in his eyes, he has already commited adultery in his heart. So therefore making a decision based on looks is not advised. Looks can be deceiving etc...
On to women, women tend to go by what they hear. They tend to get attach to a man who makes them feel good by what he says. Whispering sweet nothings in their ears. Sweet talking women, charming them. Many women fall for men by this method. They romance the women just by talking and having them listen to whatever they have to say.
So just like when a men look at a women with lust and commits adultery, doesn't it mean that when a women listen into lust they are also commiting adultery? women who are listening to men who are telling them how nice their body looks, how sexy they look, how hot and wild they look. Women who are listening to and entertaining men who are expressing their lust to them. Those who are blind and spiritually deaf fail to see the truth. The fact that a man is pursuing them through adultery. The fact that a man is expressing his sin to them and can't recognize it, the fact that it turns them on is crazy.
Women who listens to sweet slow songs that are talking about love, making love, sweet kisses, women who are watching and listening to these romantic movies advertising cheap love, receiving such things in their spirit. Please take it to God
The bible does say that BEAUTY is vain and CHARM is deceptive
I don’t even know where to start.I know so many people who tries so hard to look sexy because looking innocent seems lame to them. Have you ever had anyone tell you that you need to look more sexy? It’s because they think you look innocent. They swear they are followers of Christ who is innocent but they don’t want to look nothing like Him. They want to look the opposite. They want to look “wild and sexy”. Lol, which part of Jesus Christ is wild or sexy? How is Jesus wild or sexy?
Why is looking innocent so bad? It is written in the bible “be innocent as doves but smart as a serpent”. How can you be innocent and look like you are wild? Unless you are trying to deceive people. Charm is deceptive. It’s weird that people will claim someone as their master but don’t want to look anything like the master. It’s weird that some christians claim to love God but they don’t want to look anything like Him. In 1cor.10 it says to eat and drink For the glory of God, let alone getting dressed.
I wonder what would happen if christians took the bible seriously. God hate a proud look according to proverb 6. Beauty is vain, vanity is vexation of the spirit according to ecclesiastes.
Apparently some people can’t get into certain clubs or discos unless they dress a certain way, meaning they have to look “sex-y”. sex-ually attractive, sex-ually exciting, unless they have a proud look. Doesn’t that already tell us that children of God don’t belong in places like these? Places where You are required to glorify your flesh with certain attires. There are some people you can’t even go around unless you are wearing costly apparel. 1tim2:9 says not to let these things be our adorning, so with all that said, the flesh can’t be humbled with us trying to glorify it, to make is look glossy, flashy, revealing, taking pride in it, showing it off. Those are fleshly stuff. Even with certain pants, like some jeans, they reveal so much about a woman.
Have you ever had to look on a stage while sitting down and see a christian woman standing wearing fitted pants? You can see the shape and size of her thighs, You can tell where her crotch is located. To me that’s very revealing. It’s almost like standing on a stage with panties on.
crucify the flesh!! humble it down!
Ok so God is Amazing!!! He is super sweet!!! I love Him!! sometimes I just feel like doing cartwheels, just by thinking of Him, or just stand on top of a mountain and scream out of joy. He is awesome. The silly thing is I have tons of reasons to stress out, to worry, to cry, to just hide under a rock but He gives me joy effortlessly. Man He is so sweet and loving. I don’t even have to force joy in my heart, He just grant it to to me, for free. I guess the only effort is taking my eyes off myself on put them on Him. How can a man be so sweet, so loving, so caring, so gentle, so kind, so humble, so GRAND.
God really is the most amazing daddy!!! I feel like in order to truly feel Him, we have to let go of ourselves to focus on Him. Can You imagine what it would be like hugging God yet trying to hold on to Yourself in front of such a pure and holy God. I wouldn’t want to hold on to myself, more like hug Him and just bury myself in His presence.
He’s not like some of these men in this world who are in high positions, who are prideful and look down on you, people who are doing charity work half-hearted, whose hearts are filthy. Nope We have a Father who is pure, Holy, bright, shining, grand, powerful, above everything yet He chooses to love us, yet He is humble and kind, yet he cares and makes Himself available. No one can compare to Him. No ONE
I used to be a people pleaser. For the longest time in my life. I would say stuff to make people smile, stuff so that people would like me, even if that meant putting myself low. I would say stuff so that people would accept me, to say nice things about them, so that people would love me.
In a sense that was selfish because everything I did or say was so that people would love me. Everything sort of revolved around “me” being loved and accepted and Not having people mad at me. In a sense it was a fear of being rejected that caused me to be selfish. So when the word says God did not give us a spirit of fear, it is for real. That fear of being rejcted, fear of people not liking me and possibly talk behind my back negatively which happened anyway. Those fears caused me to focus on myself. To be selfish. Love does not seek its own, so I did not love myself, nor did I give myself a chance to truly love others with true love because I was stuck on people pleasing which is deceptive. I was too busy deceiving people to gain their acceptance. I was too busy focusing on being accepted.
People pleasing seem so harmless buy that’s not true. It usually requires a lot of charm and the word says that charm is deceptive and it is also written “woe to you when all men speak well unto you for this is how their fathers treated the FALSE prophets”. People pleasing is harmful to the soul. It’s deceptive.
With all that said I was being fake and deceiving people. Tricking them into liking me and making them think that I loved them when all I cared about was myself not being rejected, myself not being hated, It was all about me.
It’s no wonder why when I am outside of their presence I was happy but when I was about to see them I felt annoyed because I didn’t miss them but they missed me because I smiled and said whatever they wanted to hear to made them love me not because I focused on loving them truly but because I was focused on being liked, being loved, being accepted. That was what I had wanted. All that I had wanted was selfish; only focusing on me and not what others truly needed.
That’s why I used to wonder why did people always want to be around me. Why did they call me all the time. Why, why, why. Why did they like me so much?, why did they feel like I was their best friend? Because I tricked them and deceived them for the sake of my selfishness. Because I had my eyes set on me and not on God. It was all on me.
I would try to please people but really deceive them by asking them questions about themselves and the things that matters the most to them, so I would ask them about these things because I knew people loved to talk about stuff that matters to them so I would always do that not because I cared but because I knew if I did that they would see me as a likeable person, they would say nice things about me. Because I wanted people to see me as a nice person and wanted them to like me.
I would hate it when they asked anything about my life because I was miserable. All I had to say were unfortunate stuff from my past and that gained me sympathy or pity. That caused people to like me more.
That was so deceiving. I was flattering people. Charming them. God hates a lying tongue. He hates deception. But my eyes were on me and not God. I was deceiving people.He is a deliverer for sure. God is able. Set your eyes on God and He will direct them. You can’t direct anything when your eyes are focused on you nor do you allow God to direct you. He is our GPS.
God is truly the only person who loves us perfectly. The only one. The only one who’s not going to ask us to compromise, the only one who’s not going to ask us to lie and go against the truth for His benefit.
Often times with friends or family members we sometimes lie to keep up our ties and loyalty to one another. Even if it’s a small lie. Since satan is the father of lies, don’t you think that every lie that comes out of your mouth means that you surrendered and became obedient to satan? Our God is a God of truth, of light, He is holy. He doesn’t dwell in lies. He hates a lying tongue. A lie is a lie no matter how small or subtle it may be. Stop surrendering to the devil. Let the holy Spirit guide you into truths.
Our loyalties sometimes requires that we lie or act with malice intents. That’s being deceived and surrendering to the devil. Being obedient to the devil, the father of lies. Even if it’s asking someone to lie for you, to tell someone that you aren’t here when you are present, to ask someone to compromise for the sake of your dark deeds. That’s not acting out of the love of God.
As a christian, you learn to despise lies and discern them and when you are asked to partake in that nonsense it makes you feel uncomfortable. To step outside of God’s will is uncomfortable.
One of my wishes is to one day get married. As a person in her 20s who’s never been in a relationship or ever kissed anyone I sometimes have people telling me “you need to find yourself a man”, “we need to hook you up”,”oh girl you need help” or “you need to start dating”, “when are you gonna have a boyfriend”, “when are you going to start dating”, or “are you serious?.. what’s wrong with you?..”, “dang!!! I had my first kiss at… (fr 5-9yrs old)”. loll
Seriously? I obviously know what I want in a relationship and know where I want it to lead and know that I do not want to get married right now nor did I want to get married in any of the past years. That’s for the future, so what would be the use of me having a boyfriend in the past or right now. My goal to get married was not for the past nor today so I most definitely did not miss out on anything. Unless there was something that I wanted badly in a romantic relationship but that’s not the case for me so any of these comments just seems ridiculous to me.
The crazy thing is that the people who often say these things are single with one or more ex(es) or is in a relationship which they have been in for several years and still aren’t married.
What’s crazy about it is that these people have done all the things they are advising me to do, have had several people touch them like a piece of meat, have had several tongues in their mouths, have had several boyfriends, several sexual encounters from just kissing to oral to intercourse etc..have used their bodies to try and catch the right man or woman, have gone on several dates and none of these things got them what I want to have one day. None of these things got them a ring or a commitment. They are not married.
If my goal is to get married one day and everything you are telling me to do have not gotten you married after several tries, why would you advise me to do the same thing? lol What has that gotten you? Where has that taken you? whether you do have a boyfriend or single, whatever technique you are trying or have tried, it has not been working for you, you are still single. Wait until you get married and then You can give me advice on my singleness. But for now whatever you are doing or have been doing has not worked because you’re still not married. I bet a true spirit filled married couple wouldn’t give me the same advice.
I think it’s annoying that people feel like your singlesness have to be their problem when it’s not even a problem to you. It’s only because of my age and the fact that I have always been single. If I had a past that was different and I said that I am not currently seeking any romance, they would have respected that and leave it alone.
I don’t understand, I do know people who do not try to make me feel bad or make it seem like I am abnormal and those are usually the ones who don’t feel like they need a man to strengthen their identities, those who don’t feel like they have to be in a relationship in order to feel valuable or acknowledged, those who walk with confidence whether they are single or not, those who aren’t desperate for romantic companions.
It’s been a couple of days since I haven’t toy around with maladaptive daydreaming. It has not always been easy, it is a tough battle and honestly I just wish that God would just zap it all out of my head so that I can enjoy the best that He has available for me.
During the daytime, it’s not so bad. I keep thinking about what I really want my life to be like and also thinking about life in general and people who I know are in need and how I could possibly help. I have also been noticing few stuff that would normally make me start an episode so that my characters would experience them but whenever that’s about to happen I question what it is that i think is cool and awesone about whatever the trigger seem and I will think of ways that I can actually enjoy that in real life and write it down and then I think of the steps to accomplish that. Throughout the day I look around or think about what I would enjoy doing since I am out of work. I figure that I really like DIY projects. By actually starting with any little small projects, it stretches my mind and help me think of better ideas. I also want to learn a new language so I have been looking for free apps that can help, as well as youtube videos that can teach me. I also decided that I want to learn how to swim. It looks fun to me. So I have been researching online for places that can offer swimming lessons at the cheapest price. I play games on my phone, I am more aware of the need for communication between me and my peers/family.
At night, that’s usually when I struggle. Maladaptive daydreaming used to be what puts me to sleep. That used to be the way for me to fall asleep for years and years!!! I realized that when I lay in bed I long for these episodes to eventually help me fall asleep and I have had to fight that by watching videos on my phone about things I like (ex:a specific topic, tutorials of different stuff, video tags, sermons, testimonies, how-tos, Interesting things I want to know, random things that others know except for me), sometimes I will just start thinking about what I want my life to be like, How I wish to live, things that God can do in my life, changes He can make, miracles I would love for Him to perform in my life.
I think that wanting to live for God helps in stopping this wretched habit. because in my daydreams, It’s always all about the main characters, all about attention whether direct or subliminal, all about being loved and accepted and cared for and getting noticed and people knowing the main character’s value and how important they are, how much they mean to the other charaters. Whatever the story line is, It’s always about the main character. And also how they normally are into their looks and never lack too much, How guys are attracted to them because of how great they look without trying hard. In a lot of the story lines there are a lot of promiscuosity. So yea, definitely wanting to live for God has helped because I know these things are works of the flesh and He’s not pleased with these things, so thinking of what God would want, how He would want me to be and how He can bring me joy and satisfy me His own ways, How He can bless me and how I only have to surrender to Him and He will take care of me, How I do have the attention and the love that I wish to have and that I just need to accept them from Him and then I can accept that from others but it won’t even matter then because I will be filled with what He has already given me that I will want to share it with others who do not have that and wish for it. God is super awesome. I pray that He keeps pulling me out of this mess I am in. Thank You Jesus!!! Isn’t it amazing how someone can love us so much and accept us in spite of who we are without putting us down and make us feel lower than we are, without making you feel bad, scared, intimidated, low, etc… He is super humble. Such a humble King who loves me with all His heart
incredibly unchanging. His love is ceaseless, endless and everlasting. His great heart is fixed, steadfast and immovable.”